Updated: Mar 30, 2021
It's nearly Mother's Day and chances are, if you're reading this, you're either preparing a thoughtful gesture for a mother you know, or perhaps you're anticipating being the recipient of such a gesture.
What I've come to realise over the years is that each family has their own variation on how they celebrate and commemorate these types of calendar events.
At one end of the spectrum (the very far right end) you have the families who go all out for Mother's Day. There's a huge gathering of extended family honouring all the mothers in the group (well at-lease pre-COVID-19 there was). There are expensive gifts, cards, decorations - the whole kit and caboodle.
At the other end of the spectrum there's the family who marks the occasion with beautiful handmade and thoughtful cards and a special cuddle with mum in the morning. And of course there are all the variations in between these two ends of the spectrum.
Where do you and your family sit on this spectrum? If you have a partner is he/she on the same wave-length as you on this one, or do you have different views depending on your respective backgrounds? Have you ever had this conversation? In our household we have had to revisit this topic a few times over the years (LOL).
Of course there's no right or wrong way to celebrate Mother's Day - it will all depend on your family values.
Of course there's no right or wrong way to celebrate Mother's Day, it will all depend on your family values. What you don't want, however, is there to be a disconnect between what the mother is expecting and what the partner/child is organising. Not living up to a mother's expectations is a sure-fire way of making a mother feel under-appreciated and this is not good for anybody.
Thankfully, you can avoid all of this by using your values as a guide to ensure you are all on the same page. This way you are able create wonderful family traditions on Mother's Day that everybody can look forward to.
Perhaps one of your family values is 'thinking of others', your children might spend the day doing kind things for Mum to make her feel special.
If one of your family values was 'gratitude', the children might make a card for Mum outlining all of the wonderful things she does that they are grateful for.
However you decide to celebrate Mother's Day with your family, just make sure it's in line with your family values and everybody's expectations are aligned. Don't forget to take photos of Mum on the day, she will value these precious moments in time in the future.
FREEBIE: I have put together a set of little 'Parent Like You Mother's Day Coupons'. If this sort of thing aligns with your values and you would like to use them, you can download the full set at https://www.parentlikeyou.com.au/mother-s-day-coupons.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all the wonderful mums out there!
If you haven't developed your own set of consistent values for your family and you would like to, I invite you to read my book 'Values Guided Parenting'.
Values Guided Parenting supports you to think strategically about your parenting. It guides you to visualise your end goal (your grown-up, adult children), and deeply consider what kind of people you dream for them to become and the values you aspire for them to live their lives by.
Next, you'll use this visualisation to develop a personalised guide for confident and proactive parenting and discover ways to bring your values-guided vision to life!
Download your copy of the eBook from www.parentlikeyou.com/shop.
Kirsty Foster xoxo
Author of the book 'Values Guided Parenting'
Founder and Editor of Parent Like You - Online Magazine