A Step-by-step Guide to a Super Simple Mid-year Reset

Updated: Mar 30, 2021

Are you feeling a little topsy turvy after the events of the last few months? It seems like more than a few people out there are ready to throw in the towel on 2020.

But if you’re not quite ready to give up on the year just yet, here’s a simple way to take stock of where you – or your family - are at right now, reconnect with what matters, and reset yourself for the rest of 2020.

Step One

Draw a large circle on an A4 piece of paper. Divide the circle into eight segments. (Have a look at mine below). Give each segment a label that represents a key area of your or your family’s life. Keep going until you’ve done all eight. Some commonly used labels are:

  • Key relationship

  • Family and friends

  • Finances

  • Career

  • Health and wellbeing

  • Home environment

  • Fun and joy

  • Personal growth

You might start with this list, scratch out any that seem less relevant to your life right now, and replace with another category you identify as being important. Be guided by your values to identify the areas that matter most. This is about your needs after all!

And while this list is obviously more individually focused, if you’re doing this from a family perspective, be guided by your values to choose the areas or domains that matter most. You might do it around the dining table together. There might be some overlaps – things like fun and joy, health and wellbeing… as well as some family-specific ones, like home responsibilities, and family communication. 

Wheel of Life
Wheel of Life

Step Two

Once you’re happy with your eight areas, rate your personal (if doing it for yourself) or overall family satisfaction for each one out of 10 (1 being very low or no satisfaction, 10 being really satisfied). 1 is located at the innermost part of the segment, and 10 at the outermost part. Shade each area in according to the rating you give it. 

Now, take the time to answer why. What’s driving the satisfaction or dissatisfaction in each area? Keep it simple and identify the biggest contributor for each one. You’ll want to jot this down on paper too.

Step Three

Now take a step back and look at the whole wheel. As you look at it, is it bumpy or smooth overall? What stands out? And where do you naturally feel drawn to changing things?

A little reminder at this point. We’re wired to focus on the negative, so it’s easy to get hung up on what’s not going well (and remember to give yourself plenty of grace given the chaos of the last few months!). So it’s fine to identify what’s a little out of whack right now, but don’t forget to also consider what’s going well, and why. 

Step Four

Choose just one domain you want to focus on for the coming month. It might make sense to start with the area you naturally feel most drawn to changing things in. Whatever feels good and right, right now.

I’m a huge fan of keeping things simple when it comes to making change. The less we overwhelm ourselves with high expectations that we then fail to meet (and then berate ourselves over), the better. So, with your chosen area, ask the following question:

What’s just one thing I could change about this right now in order to move my rating closer to 10?

If you’re doing this with family, get the kids’ ideas for getting the ratings up, too. We’re far more likely to work towards making a change when we’ve had input into what it looks like!

Try and choose the single thing that will have the greatest impact. And make that your sole commitment for the coming month.

Want to go deeper? Hop over to https://www.vickievanscoaching.com/resources and download my free Get Set Up For 2020 reflection and planning tool. The tool will step you through the above exercise in much more depth, prompting you to reflect deeply so you can get the most of the coming six months (just tweak the questions for a six month period instead).

Vicki Evans is a Mind-body Coach and specialises in helping people find lasting relief from chronic stress and overwhelm.

She is on a mission to say no to hustle culture, and support people to prioritise themselves and their wellbeing so they can live intentionally. Vicki works with clients through one to one life coaching, leadership and resilience coaching, and her Purpose-Driven Productivity online course.

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