This Was NOT in the 'Brochure'

Updated: Mar 30

Once upon a time, there was a fairly intelligent girl who thought she knew it all, and had it all. And then well quite simply … LIFE occurred.  It felt like overnight (but really was prolonged over a MUCH longer period) that her world was pulled apart. Dismantled. Rug pulled from under her. Reality smack bang in the face! Woah! Yep, SHIT got real … real fast.

You see… she was travelling along ‘the path’. She didn’t get into trouble, studied hard, obeyed her parents, forged friendships, got a degree or two, started a career.

Her long-term steady relationship turned into marriage, a house or two, a dog or two, a kid, another degree, another house, a boat, some cars, another kid, smattered with holidays, parties, and lots of people around … you know just doing LIFE. 

Doing what was expected? Maybe. Ticking boxes? Perhaps.

Living an authentic fulfilled life? Definitely not!

Then in a blink of an eye. Ready for it? He says,


She says “You’re leaving?”.

BAM…. Right in the stomach and between the eyes…SIMULTANEOUSLY! Absolutely sideswiped, blind sided and hit for a six all at once.

When you reflect on what ensued, it can quite simply be described as a series of “this wasn’t in the brochure” moments. 

So, I welcome you on a journey of discovery (P.S. its still going, and probably always will). Some of these will be mine, and some of these are my people’s stories…. but what matters most is it appears that none of us seem to have gotten that darn brochure.  You know the one? The one that tells us what life will be like, what we can expect, how things are going to turn out.  The stuff that we can (or maybe more likely, thought we could) rely on.

So you know what I have discovered? There may or may not ACTUALLY be a brochure!!! I know, right? Seriously!!!! WTF. Why the hell not? Surely someone has a copy and it's not an urban myth?

But you know what I have decided I am